Here are some points to consider under the heading of Tags and Labels and Titles
- You do not always have control over how and what you are labelled, tagged, titled
- Tags etc. are almost always indefinite
- Tags say as much about the tagger as they do about the tagged, maybe more
- The purpose of tags may be multiple
- The tagged can use the tag for personal advantage
You do not always have control over how and what you are labelled, tagged, titled
An old adage says “Let me change the things I can change; let me not try to change the things I know I cannot change; let me develop the wisdom to know the difference.”
The wise person assesses the costs of efforts and weighs them against the profit of the results BEFORE taking action. That assessment answers for itself the request for wisdom. Stopping to assess whether something should be done is an “on the job training” way to develop wisdom.
Doing nothing may allow one to apply the energy and time made available by doing nothing to some other project whose success may clearly show a label someone stuck you with to be a lie, a misjudgment, or intentional slander.
Tags say as much about the tagger as they do about the tagged, maybe more
Doing nothing related to the tag while doing something positive about something else can effectively change behavior. Not only in the exposed “tagger.” When the bad label ricochets and injures the tagger instead of the tagged, the exposure encourages others to select and apply appropriate, positive, constructive behaviors.
The purpose of tags may be multiple
Welcome a flag on the play immediately. The earlier a tag etc is challenged the better. The tagged should use the opportunity to assess group members. If someone challenges the tag, good. Honest discussion can ensue.
Often someone who labels someone else is diverting attention from their own wrong doing. When that wrong doing occurs the wrong doer develops a tag for themselves. A tag they do not want. Then the wrong doer is stuck with the “kick me” sign on their back.
At times, tags are applied by people who do not even know the definition of the “tag” they MIS-use. This came up today. When I encountered it again on Yahoo Answers, I knew the time was appropriate for an article.
A said “B is an atheist.” Such times are great times for those who studied “dead languages” in school. A good knowledge of Latin and Greek not only makes one’s own language vocabulary grow immensely and easily but is a great help in learning other European languages.
I said, “what do you mean?” A said “B does not believe in God.”
I said “perhaps B believes in God but is not a theist. In which case you need another tag because atheist will be incorrect.”
A said “HUH?”
Atheist parses into two meaning parts. “A” is a common prefix meaning “not.” Theist means one who believes that ONE god exists. It is unfortunate and possibly meaningful that God of Christianity is both a “theistic” god and simultaneously a trinity - father, son, and holy spirit.
This of course increases the number of courses required in any theology school.
An adherent of the Moslem religion is a theist as well for ALLAH is one GOD. Same for Judaism. Yahweh is one GOD.
Perhaps B is a believer in any one of the many non-theistic religion. Consider pantheism. The word “pan” means all. So a pantheist, strictly speaking believes god is in everything thus making us all one organism and that could play havoc with meanings. Or the pantheist believes many things are gods. Perhaps trees and flowers are gods and rocks are not.
Pantheist dot net says the following. “Pantheists do not propose belief in a deity; rather, they hold nature itself as a creative presence. Pantheism reconciles science and religion through ecology leading to strong environmental awareness.”
Think about all the possible ways A could be right and wrong. Wow!
The tagged can use the tag for personal advantage
This is a graphic example that is not likely to occur as graphicly as we present it but it helps to make a point.
Assume that in a group of workers A tells others that B is LAZY.
Whenever a task comes up that every one ignores and doesn’t want to, B gets out a vest made for the issue. B has used a magic marker to write “LAZY” back of the vest. B puts the vest on a does the disagreeable task and does it well.
B will have people coming up and saying, “hey, LAZY, whattup?” Everybody in the group knows “lazy” has taken on a whole new meaning for this group. B knows that when his colleagues call him “lazy” they are extending a tribute and compliment.
Everyone will always remember as well the person who called B “LAZY” in the beginning. Not calling that person anything is the best rebuke.
When I was a kid we had another adage. “Sticks and stone may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”
We might take that one step further and suggest that those words might even become building blocks. Presto - magic!
Do not label me as an existentialist but one of the most famous existentialists, Jean Paul Sartre said “if you label me, you negate me.”
That is probably so and worth thinking about a while. I would certainly say for the sake of this essay if nothing else, if you label me you limit me.
I laugh a lot at sports, especially professional sports like football. Names are given to teams. The names, I assume, are made to impress, possibly to create fear in opponents.
“May the most terrifying name win.”
Every writer knows to be prepared to leave a metaphor as quickly as it arrived. Because if you stick a team with one name, the primary quality of the critter behind that may be all you have going for you. For example, “The Rams” would be pretty much limited to butting things. And where would they put the ball to carry it down the field?
Is it not surprising that no footballs teams exist who are named “Hydra.” Or “Mastodons” or …
Be well,
Transformercator